Monthly Archives: February 2012

Because I’m a Maneater!

“I excel at date parties.” This was a status I put on my Facebook shortly after attending a date party last semester. My older sister who just graduated from the same school and is a member of the same sorority quickly replied with, “Of course you do, we are related.. keep on the legacy little one.”

Date parties are an art. Creating a costume is the best part of of the whole shabang. My most favorite date party was themed “Hooked On You” where I proceeded to create a shark costume and my date was “the victim.” I had just broken up with my long time boyfriend and was on a new “go me, I got rid of that loser” kick. Becoming a shark was probably one of the best ideas I have ever had. When people asked me, “A shark? That’s cool, why?” I would quickly reply with “Because I’m a maneater!” Not gonna lie, it was a hit. My best friend also had a good idea and went as a jellyfish (she was on a “I don’t need a man, so stay away from me” kick). The whole night we both proceeded to “shark” and “jellyfish” all night. Its a little hard to explain but I went around with my hands clasped together like I was swimming like a shark while my friend would hold her arms out to the side and swivel them as if they were her tentacles. Needless to say, the date party was a blast and our costumes had a huge role in that.

Date parties aren’t just about getting drunk and dancing with friends. To outsiders it may seem that way, and I don’t blame them. Date parties are about getting to be something else. We study all week and get swamped in projects and papers so on the weekends its nice to have something special every once in a while. Date parties allow us to make silly costumes (like a shark and jellyfish) and to just let go and take on the character rather than resuming in our normal college student lives.

So get creative and host a themed party. Create a silly costume and forget about the weeks activities for one night.

Here are some links for some great party/costume ideas:
College Tips
Top 10 College Theme Parties
Homemade Costume Ideas


Forget the Candle, Give Me a Cat.

Candlelight– the tradition that every sorority girl dreams of…except  this girl. As of now, the thought of marriage scares the hell out of me. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t mind having a candlelight. It’s the commitment to marriage in a mere 2 years that gives me the chills. Most people our age don’t know what they are doing next week, so how are we supposed to know who we are going to live the rest of our lives with?

So let me explain this “Candlelight” business– The Candlelight ceremony has been a sorority tradition for as long as sororities have existed. It all starts out when a girl (usually a senior, sometimes a junior) gets 1. dropped, 2. promised, or 3. engaged. For those of you that do not know, getting “dropped” is when the girl’s boyfriend gives her his letters to wear from his fraternity. It may not seem like a big deal, but for most fraternities, it’s like their version of a Candlelight. Now, getting promised is almost like getting engaged to be engaged. I personally don’t see the point in a promise ring.. why not just get engaged when the time is right? Personally, I feel like a promise ring says “We aren’t old enough to get married, so let me lock you down…” just sayin. Last but not least, is the engagement. I feel like everyone knows what an engagement is here in ‘Merica. We tend to make a huge deal about it, which is honestly okay by me. Yes, you can confess your love to me and plan out a cheesy way to ask me to spend the rest of my life with you. You have to admit, that’s a pretty hefty question. It’s not like your asking me, “What do you want to eat for dinner tonight?”, its asking me “What do you want to eat for dinner..for the rest of your life…with me?” Huge difference.

Now don’t get me wrong, I definitely believe in finding the right person and I definitely plan on getting married one day. I also believe that everything happens for a reason, so I have never really been the girl to plan the wedding or in this case, Candlelight, before there is a 2nd party involved. Around Candlelight season you hear girls talking about how they need to have a boyfriend now so that they will be ready for the Candlelight in 2 years. Personally, I’d rather be patient and find the right person and not have a Candlelight than end up with some dead-beat fiance with no personality and a beer belly. So, yes, I’m okay with being single for as long as it takes to find the right person. So until then forget the candle, and give me a cat.

See you in 9 months, 3 days, 11 hours and 15 minutes……

And the count down begins.. I’m going to start off by saying this count down is not a pregnancy count down being that it is 9 months (that’s awkward). The count down I am talking about is the count down to legality. Turning 21, the last age that everyone eagerly waits for. The age that gives you more options on the social front and the age that drains your cash.

So 9 months, 3 days, 11 hours and 15 minutes is November 11 and my birthday…if you haven’t guessed already. This would be perfectly fine if I didn’t have friends all turning 21 already. This has always been a problem for me, I have always become friends with those older than myself. This was fine when I was 15 years old and my friends were 16, I got a lot of free transportation out of it. But now that the difference between 21 and 20 is the legal consumption of alcohol and an MIP, things have changed and my friends have slowly disappeared one-by-one.

It hasn’t been too bad so far, mainly just Thursday nights when Joe’s has their “Ladies’ Night”. Which really isn’t all that bad considering I have work Thursday nights and an early morning class on Fridays. As for the rest of my friends’ “bar nights” I’m stuck finding my own things to do.

So what is there to do in this small college town?

Although Stillwater, Okla. is great, there isn’t much to do on the itinerary. So here are some of the things I came up with..

-Life chat– Orange Leaf and Aspen are my personal favorites. These are great places to kill an hour or two with a close friend to just sit and life chat. Personally, I feel like Aspen is used for the more serious life chats. The “Hey, let’s get coffee” line is almost just as bad as “Hey, we need to talk..” line. Not going to lie, I may or may not have broken up with someone at Aspen. It’s an easy getaway, you’re not stuck having to finish your meal, and its a pretty relaxing environment. Orange Leaf on the other hand is a little more uplifting and a more positive environment. So I’d stick with Orange Leaf for more casual encounters.

–Get some fresh air/ be active– My personal favorite is running, or walking (let’s get real), out at Boomer. Especially with a furry companion. Dogs love a nice stroll out at Boomer. If you don’t have one, borrow one! Most dog owners are almost always more than willing to offer up their dog for a walk. There is also the Humane Society. They have cats and dogs to play with, it’s easy to spend at least 2 hours there if you’re an animal person. Plus, you get service hours (win-win right?). Then there is bowling, I know its lame but come on.. it’s Stillwater, Oklahoma. It’s really not all that bad if you have a good group of friends with you. Last but not least, there is the Colvin Recreation Center. The Colvin has almost everything from rock climbing to Squash, and hey, its free.

–Find a “Haven”- One of the most important things you can have in college. Living in a sorority house with 66 other girls can get a little over whelming, which is why I found my haven. My haven is really just one of my best friends house. All we really do is homework and watch movies along with various other activities.. ( 😉 ). This way, you don’t have to spend money, just enjoy your time relaxing with your best pals.

Yeah, there isn’t that much to do in Stillwater other than going to the bars. Honestly, it’s not really about what you are doing, but who you are with. Find a good group of friends that will be there for you no matter what. As for my friends.. see you in 9 months, 3 days, 11 hours, and 4 minutes.

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